What. A. Week.
Sitting down to write this, I have so many thoughts running through my head. It wasn’t as smooth a transition as I’d hoped for, but as a first time foster parent, I guess I really didn’t know what was coming. The system is very broken, that’s for sure.
We had “Dragon” in our care for almost four days before we had any information regarding his health insurance, or our family resource worker’s name, or knowing a schedule for his visits. Not to mention, we still don’t know when visits will be, what will be going on at them, or anything related to therapy. Ugh. But, we just keep calling the social worker and asking. I’ve always been worried about bugging people, but that’s their tough luck in this situation.
Let me take you day by day…
Tuesday: Dragon came into our care. We met him two times before that, once for 20 minutes, once for about 3 hours. He came with all his stuff (he had quite a bit!), and his meds. No information. A quick “hi, hello” from his social worker. It was a bit of a rough night. Kait had him all day. They bonded over Legos. We had pizza for dinner. He was still incredibly guarded, as expected.
Wednesday: I had a bad day at work. I’m really bad at not taking work frustrations home with me – it’s something I’m working on. I may or may not have had close to a total breakdown when I got home. The transition is tough. Like, really tough. Anyway, Kait spent the day with him again. They did puzzles and played Legos. We made homemade chicken nuggets for dinner. He refused to eat. He at all his tater tots but would not even touch the chicken nugget. It really was just the topper to my day.
Thursday: I had an epiphany at work – let the kid do the meal planning. I told Kait my idea and she thought it sounded pretty good. They made categorized cards of foods that he likes and will eat.
Friday: Kinda uneventful. I started feeling better about things. We got more information. We still have no answer on a voucher for after school care (UGH!). But we know his health insurance info.
Saturday: We spent the day out and about – got him some new clothes, took him grocery shopping for some foods he’ll eat. He chose dinner using his food cards – turkey, mashed potatoes, and watermelon. There’s surprisingly more foods that he likes than we thought! Though, he likes one veggie -corn. So, for now, Kait and I agreed that it’s acceptable to have a fruit with dinner. This way, he’ll he getting something fresh in a meal plan that is a little processed foods heavy. Also – he is really resistant to foods when they look different from what he remembers. We tried to buy some turkey breast cutlets but he thinks of turkey like a Thanksgiving turkey – a whole bird. We bought a whole chicken – he thought it was turkey – and he loved it. Win, win.
Sunday (today): We had a pretty good day. We finished our meal planning board and hung it in the kitchen. He was excited to be able to plan out the meals for the week. He told us he likes being able to see what he’ll be eating for the whole week. Towards the end of the day, I started to feel a little down. Not as severe as Wednesday – thank god. It’s tough having a little person just cling to you all day long. It’s exhausting to have to entertain someone all day. We’ll teach him how to play on him own and entertain himself without the aid of an electronic device. But it’s a slow process.
While this is the most exhausting adventure I have ever taken on, it’s also so rewarding. We knew he was getting comfortable when he decided to stop wearing his shoes in the house. We’ve seen him go from very reserved, to very talkative in less than a week. He offers to help with dishes and even helps himself to getting utensils as needed. These sound so small but feel so monumental in my book.
I need to remember to take time for myself. And time for Kait and I. We need to make time for each other or the system will wear us out. But I’m looking forward to the challenge.
Side note: my domain is up the middle of March. I will be changing the name of this blog and rebranding a little bit. But I’ll still be on this platform, still keeping all my older posts.
Have a great Monday tomorrow, everyone,